20 CHARACTER TEST TO CONSIDER BEFORE YOU SAY "I DO".

If Love blinds your eyes, character will open your eyes. Stop fooling along and blindly screaming "Am in love". Look again and be sure he or she is what you really want". A man with an untested character is more dangerous than a wounded lion. These activity will help you look more objectively at the character of someone you feel romantically attracted to. Look before you leap.

1. Does this person treat me with kindness and courtesy?

2. Does this person ever shove, shake, hit or in other ways bully me?

3. Is this person self-centered, always expecting to get their own way?

4. Does this person bring out the best in me? Do I feel happy after spending time together?
5. Does this person respect my values, and never pressure me to do something I think is wrong?
Share my values and respect my limits concerning sex?

6. Is this person overly jealous and possessive, keeping me from spending time with my family and friends?

7. Does this person tell the truth to me and others?

8. Does this person have good judgment? How much do I trust him/her?

9. Does this person use drugs or alcohol?

10. Does this person Look at pornography?

11. Does this person this person treat and talk about his/her parents with respect?

12. Does this person treat and talk about my parents/family with respect?

13. Does this person treat his/her friends in a positive way?

14. Does this person treat my friends in a positive way?

15. Does this person spread stories and rumors about other people?

16. Is this person a hard worker?

17. Is this person Patient and forgiving--able to make up quickly after an argument?
18. If faith is important in my life, is it important in theirs?

19. Would I be proud to call this person my husband or wife?

20. Would this person be a good role model for my (future) children--an example of good character?
Would I want my kids to grow up to be like him/her? Now drop your comment below now.

13 SURE STEPS TO GET MARRIED IN 6 MONTHS ......by Andy Kwas

Don't let anyone lie to you that you cannot be married 6 months from today. I am De Love Guru and I have taught many single ladies who applied these truths am about to teach you now and are presently happily married. Here is what I taught them. Let's talk heart2heart:

13 Sure Steps to get married in 6 month

1. CHECK THE SPIRITUAL. Alice had almost given up on marriage when we met. She was 36 with countless disappointments from men yet her beauty is extremely staggering. The first question I asked her after she narrated her relationship woes to me was, "Have you checked your spiritual foundation?" Her reply was "Not really". Finally I took her through series of questions to help her unravel her spiritual foundation and we prayed using the name of Jesus Christ to deal with Ancient altars that have spoken against her destiny for many years. The very next week after we prayed intensely, it's like all the men who has ever dated her came back begging and crying to marry her. It was a sight to behold. Finally she made her choice and is happily married. May question to you is, "Have you checked the spiritual too"? Most problem have their root in the reaml of the spirit. Make sure what is holding you back from getting married is not a spiritual problem. One way to know is to check out for patterns in the family and problems that have defied all medical or physical inputes. If the pattern runs across your other siblings, there is the likelihood that it’s a spiritual problem. If it is, then let me know. Check my contact for my details and reach me.

2. DO AN AUTOPSY ON YOUR PAST RELATIONSHIPS. You need to find out WHY your past relationships have not worked. Ask, "Why didn't they work? Look at things honestly. If it's hours fault, learn from your mistakes. There is no future till the past is fully unravelled.

3. ACKNOWLEDGED WHAT YOU OWN IN A RELATIONSHIP. If you look at relationships that haven't worked, the common denominator is YOU! That means you own part of the problem because in life, you create your own experience and control the choices you make. Your behavior and decisions have consequences. Find out what consequences your decisions landed you into and take responsibility for them.

4. BE YOU YOUR AUTHENTIC SELF. Your authentic self is who you are when you have no fear of judgment, or before the world starts pushing you around and telling you who you're supposed to be. Your fictional self is who you are when you have a mask on to please everyone else — and it doesn't work if you're looking for a lasting relationship. Be your real self and be true to your authentic self, not your fictional self.

5. CHANGED YOUR INTERNAL DIALOGUE — Internal dialogue is what you have been telling yourself when no one is listening but yourself. For example, you have been saying in your head, "I am not beautiful". "I am not handsome", "I already 38. Which man will still marry me? "All men are cheat", "All women cannot be trusted", "Am too old now", "How can one possibly marry 6 months from now? Is it really possible like the love Guru said? These internal dialogue are many and they play differently in everyone's head. The problem with internal dialogue is that if these internal message are negative, they will show up in your life in time and program you in line with what is playing in your head.

6. NEVER CHANGE YOURSELF FOR THE PERSON YOU ARE DATING. THIS IS A COMMON MISTAKES SINGLES MAKE. When you do that, you're not being true to who you are, and it will bite you in the rear.

7. DECIDED WHAT KIND OF PERSON YOU'RE LOOKING FOR? PUT YOURSELF IN A TARGET-RICH ENVIRONMENT? For example, if you're looking for a man who loves the Club, go there. And if you're not looking for a Holy Ghost man like me, don't go to a club to find such a man. People like us don't go to club. Who do you want? What are you looking for? Frequent such environment till you find such a man.

8. CHECK THE SIGNALS YOU HAVE BEEN SENDING OUT WITHOUT KNOWING. UNDERSTAND THAT ONLY 7 PERCENT OF COMMUNICATION IS VERBAL.  For every thought you have, there's a physiological reaction. Become aware of the signals you are sending out. Desperation, for example, comes through in non-verbal communication.

9. UNDERSTAND THAT YOU DONT HAVE TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP TO BE WHOLE. It is better to be happy alone than sick with someone else. The most important relationship you can ever  have is the one you have with yourself.

10. DON'T PUT PRESSURE ON YOURSELF. There is no need. Stop telling yourself you must get a ring on your finger. This attitude of attaching MUST to your choice can lead you in a part you never thought was possible. Don't put pressure on yourself. Don’t make marriage a do or die affair.

11. MAKE SURE YOU ARE AVAILABLE. Be visible. Be seen. You have to be visible to be seen. To say you are and not act like you are is as good as not being available. Look at your life and ask yourself if you're leaving time to meet someone. Would someone have to throw himself on the hood of your car to cross paths with you and get your attention? Go where you can be seen Esther had to go where Boaz could see her. Stop hiding yourself. Go to weddings and parad yourself till you catches someone's attention. Be visible.

12. PRAY: Pray about your desire and be sure that God will give you what you seek because He loves you.

13. DON'T ACT DESPERATE. Send a message that you "want to" be in a relationship — not that you've "got to." Even if you hear your biological clock, it need not tick loudly enough for every eligible man to hear it! If you will diligently harken to these truths and practice them, you will call me soon to invite me to your wedding. Now drop your comments below now. I am De Love Guru.

TOP 10 REASONS FOR DIVORCE THAT NEW COUPLES OVERLOOK Part 1...By Andy Kwas. BB pin 2326600E

INTRODUCTION: Are you in a marriage that’s less than three years old? Well, then you’re probably going to experience any of these little signs that may not seem like such a big deal to begin with.

#1 YOU FEEL CONSTRAINED: Ever felt like the marriage is holding you back from achieving your true potential or a career option? If you feel like you’re too good to be tied down, big chances are, you’ll look for every opportunity to break out of the cage when no one’s looking.

#2 LACK OF COMMUNICATION: Talking is not communication. Communication is about understanding each other clearly and learning more about each other. Most couples talk, but don’t communicate. A relationship without good communication is a disaster waiting to happen.

#3 EXPECTATIONS FROM EACH OTHER: When two lovers get married, they have expectations from each other. But if the expectations are not mutual, it will end up distancing two people who haven’t communicated their expectations to each other.

#4 UNMET NEEDS: Cars need some basic requirments to function like water, fuel and oil. The car will move as long as its needs are met. You and I are also designed like this. Women have 5 Basic needs just like men. If your wife or hubby is malfunctioning, don't look far. Their Basic needs are not being met and if it continues, the marriage will break down. It called divorce.

#5 STAND BY YOUR SPOUSE: Why would you listen more to your bro and sis than your spouse? Don't you know that marriage makes 2 people one? When will you start listening to her instead of your parents or siblings? Never take a stand with your family against your spouse. You will ruine your marriage.

#6 YOU THINK YOU ARE TOO GOOD: Have you ever felt like you deserve someone better than your spouse? This feelings may seem like nothing now, but over time if ungaurded will make do what will shock you to your bone marrow.

#7 DIFFERENCE IN CULTURAL BACKGROUNDS: Manage your differences (families, culture, religious beliefs) well. If you don't, all it will take is a few months of suppressed ideas and opposing thoughts to wreak havoc in a marriage.

#8 TRUST. Do you really trust your spouse? Do you find their behavior suspicious, especially when they’re talking to a friend over the phone? Trust is an important pillar in marriage. If you can’t trust your spouse, you definitely can’t survive the marriage.

#9 JEALOUSY and INSECURITY. Insecurity is a little worm that crawls into your heart and grows over time. It may be your spouse’s fault, or they may have nothing to do with it. Jealousy can be cute at first, but not if it leads to big fights or confusions.

#10 INCOMPATIBLE PERSONALITY: At times, both of you may be two perfect individuals who are just completely imperfect for each other. Both of you may share nothing in common and over time, you may find that both of you should have been better off unmarried than married. Now drop your comments below. Thanks

THE 11 PRINCIPLES OF CHOOSING A LIFE PARTNER..by Andy Kwas. BB PIN 2326600E.

1. DIVINE GUIDANCE: Ask God to guide you. There should be an inner witness concerning the person you want to marry. Do not rely on Visions and dreams. Rely on God. He still guides if you ask Him.

2. UNITY OF PURPOSE: Look out for someone who see’s the same thing as you do and going the same direction with you. Look for someone that fits into your purpose.

3. FAITHFULNESS: Check if the person is dependable. How reliable are they? Can you count on what they say? Do they keep their word? Unfaithfulness is the bedrock of cheating Spouses. No faithful man will cheat on his woman.

4. MATURITY: It is important you lookout for a responsible person – Check emotional maturity and at least the guy should have a source of income. The woman should possess vocational and domestic qualifications. (Read: How Do I Know He Or She Is Emotionally Matured)

5. COMPATIBILITY. There are 5 types of compatibility you need to check.
# Check Emotional
# Spiritual Compatibility
# Check Biological Compatibility
# Check intellectual Compatibility
# Check Vocational Compatibility
# Check Recreational compatibility.
(Read: Understanding the 5 Types of Compatibility).

6. FRIENDSHIP: Marry your friend. Don't marry your Lover. (Read: How to distinguish between a Lover and a friend in 12 ways). A friend can be a lover but a lover is not always a friend.

7. PHYSICAL ATTRACTION: There should be attraction between the two people. The person you want to marry should appeal to you physically. Look for that one who moves you sexually. Don't marry anyone with whom you are not sexually attracted. That will be disaster.

8. GENEROSITY: An ideal marriage is one between two givers. When a giver marries a taker, the union is very dangerous. It becomes a parasitic relationship and one party will ends up suffering. Don't marry a stingy man or woman.

9. SEEK COUNSEL: It is important to seek the counsel of your natural and spiritual parents to get their approval and consent. You need to seek counsel before making a commitment. Don't make a commitment before seeking counsel. You can also Talk to me, De Love Guru. It’s part of the counsel.

10. EMOTIONS: Do not say Yes to a marriage proposal in a hurry. Take your time. Clear your head. Don’t be emotional about this important decision. Don't marry out of pity.

11. KNOWLEDGE: What do you know about marriage? What is the source of your knowledge? What do you know about men and women? My people perish not for plenty of devils but for ignorance. Read, read and read. That's part of how I became De Love Guru. I read a Lot.

Coming Next is, "How to Distinguish Between A Lover & A Friend In 12 Ways. Marry your friend. Don't marry your Lover. A friend can be a lover but a lover is not always a friend.

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NOTE: Jesus is not Mad at you. He is not against you. He is not looking for a reason to cast you away. He is in Love with you. Have you accepted him as your Lord and Savior?